Once Upon a Time… In the land of hopes, possibilities and dreams, I wanted to
It started as a fairy-tale. When you fill in the blank, what thoughts, feelings or emotions show up for you? Give yourself permission to close your eyes and reflect on it. Breathe…fully absorb your once grandeur vision with all of your senses. You have arrived at your destination of purpose that has awakened your sense of fulfillment, happiness, joy and peace. You’re smiling. You feel inspired. You are on fire! What an amazing feeling, right? But what happens when you open your eyes? Your Once Upon a Time may now spawn feelings of guilt, doubt and fear as the day-to-day challenges strapped you from completing your powerful BOOK of LIFE. Sure, as time marches on, your priorities may have changed. And yes, your vision of unicorns, butterflies and rainbows may look very different to you in the present moment than what it looked like 5, 10, maybe even 20 years ago.
Our priorities do change at different stages in our life.
As we mature, as we focus on our career, our relationships, or our family. That’s the story. Your story. It’s necessary to adapt to what is important in the moment to survive. So yes, Life Happens. However, it can create writer’s block that prevents us from being the author of our story in what we really want for ourselves. You question, “Where did the time go? How did this happen? Why am I still stuck in the same place? My Once Upon a Time didn’t happen so I’ll just go straight to THE END.”
This totally resonates with me as I experienced the same suffocating story. Like you, my Once Upon a Timechanged throughout my life. Frankly, most of my changes were fear-based that kept me in a survival mode which in turn shaped a different world and what I wanted in it. It paralyzed my thoughts of being able to do anything different. So it makes absolute sense that confusion, procrastination and even avoidance interrupts your ability to write your next chapter.
But what I learned is my Once Upon a Time represented a story lined with all of the superficial things I thought would make the perfect ending. My story was exactly that. A STORY. A story that included challenges in letting go of the past, my care-giver, “need to be loved” spirit that invited disastrous relationships and the accolades and accomplishments in a career driven merely by my need to “be good enough”. All of which I had sacrificed what I really wanted… To be happy.
I learned that in order to write the next chapter, I had to put the old story on the bookshelf and clarify what happiness REALLY looks like to me. I had to create my THE END to mean something much deeper. Something that would impact others. Something that would expand my awareness, my being, and how I wanted to show up in life. I discovered that all of the external influences didn’t matter. I discovered that I did not have to accept life pushing back. I reclaimed my power by shifting my thoughts, emotions and actions to those that are aligned with my purpose. My Once Upon a Time is no longer mythical.
How do you change THE END?
It’s all about CHOICE. Your desire to change must be greater than your desire to stay the same. When you peel back the multiple layers of your story and reconnect to or redefine your Once Upon a Time, you can turn the page to compose whatever it is you want to create in your life, your business, your career, relationships, self-love or self-care. Whoever said it’s too late to BE HAPPY now? I will raise my hand and answer…Uh. NO ONE! (Cue the unicorns, butterflies and rainbows.)
What do you need to write the next chapter where the words beautifully illustrate your fulfillment, happiness, joy and peace in living the life that you love? As your Life Coach, I am committed to providing a confidential, non-judgmental, safe place for you to sift through the layers of your story, to courageously set your history book aside and start a new powerful chapter in your BOOK of LIFE.
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